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The Living Love System of the Science of Happiness
The Living Love Way to Happiness and Higher Consciousness is a "Science of Happiness" which was formulated to contribute toward the great awakening now taking place throughout the world. As a system it is new-but many of the components that make up the Living Love Way have been tried and tested for thousands of years. This vision of the Living Love Way to happiness was made possible only by standing upon the shoulders of countless individuals who, in different places and times, have had insights into the causes of human happiness and unhappiness.
Millions of years ago when our animal ancestors had to survive in the jungle, it was necessary to have an instantly effective fight or flight mechanism. When a tiger was about to spring, an automatic emotional response was a lifesaver. A nervous shock was needed to squirt adrenaline into the blood so that muscles became jet powered. Emotional alarms were needed to command full attention. When a tiger was ready to jump, there was no time to admire the beautiful sunset. As a jungle survival mechanism, our animal ancestors were programmed for automatic duality-automatic feelings of otherness, threat, and paranoia. Survival required instant domination of consciousness to meet the perils of the jungle.
We are the pioneers in the evolution of human consciousness. It was only about 10,000 years ago that our ancestors built the first cities. As civilization grew, survival no longer depended on the instant fight or flight of the jungle. Survival and happiness now depend on tuning in to the overall situation involving ourselves, the people around us, and the total environment of the here and now. Perceptiveness, wisdom, and oneness are now the ingredients of effective and happy living. But our bio-computers are still programmed for jungle fight or flight-for a fast release of adrenaline into the bloodstream, and for rapid heartbeat-for automatic anger and fear. In our social interactions, our consciousness magnifies molehills and makes them into mountains-and this constant distortion destroys our energy, our insight, and our ability to love.
Thus, survival in the jungle meant that we had to be programmed for instant paranoia-instant fear-instant anger-and perception of duality. Survival in our world today means we must have instant perceptions of oneness-of Love-of union with everyone and understanding of everything around us. When we learn to cut through our paranoid jungle program, we are on our way to higher consciousness and happiness.
Evolution is now working to remedy this primitive jungle wiring in our brain that tends to hold us on lower conscious levels. Paranoid, dualistic individuals who cannot love themselves and others tend to get heart trouble, ulcers, other psychoses diseases, are accident-prone, etc. Perhaps in 100,000 years through the ruthless survival of the fittest, humans may have nervous systems that are automatically structured to produce instant insights that facilitate love and oneness. But that doesn't help you and me. We need the Living Love Way to show us how to live in consciousness as soon as possible-to override our jungle programming so that we can enjoy living here and now. We have escaped from the domination of instincts (instant unlearned behavior) that guides animals through their dual situations. Since the young human is not provided with a full repertoire of automatic fixed responses, we are unable to independently cope with life for a number of year’s afterbirth. This long period of plasticity and openness to learning complex life guidance patterns helps us avoid fixed preprogrammed behavior. For example, long nurturing period lets us learn complex language systems- our flexibility is such that we can learn to communicate in Spanish as easily as in English or any other language. Instead of a complete pattern of animal-type instincts to provide survival responses to life situations, the young child uses mechanisms backed by hair-trigger emotions to develop sensation, and power magnification of the moment-to-moment sensory inputs. Our personal development into fulfilling, our lives (as well as the progression of civilization beyond the dual power consciousness) depends on our getting free of our emotion-backed, subject-object, me-them, security-sensation-power trips.
It may be helpful to see this progression of consciousness in outline form as follows: *ORGANISM - Relatively fixed life style based on instinct or unlearned preprogrammed behavior. *Animal Lower Consciousness - Fright-or-flight directed, subject-object, emotion- backed security, sensation, and power consciousness. *Human Higher Consciousness - (increasingly involving the rational mind) that makes us inflexibly guard and protect habitual folkways and personal patterns. *Human METHOD OF PROTECTING AND ENHANCING THE ORGANISM- The ego-driven negative emotions have been replaced by wide-ranging insight and deep intuitive understanding giving full flexibility to flow in mutually supportive and loving ways with no inflexible folkways and personal patterns. The bio-computer (brain) with which you are equipped is the most remarkable instrument in the universe. Your only problem is to learn to use it properly. It is capable of handling two million visual inputs and one hundred thousand auditory inputs at any one time. Your bio-computer operates continually throughout all of its parts and is capable of making millions of simultaneous computations. It operates with enormous power primarily on unconscious levels-with only a tiny proportion of its activity rising to the level of consciousness. The conscious level of your bio-computer is analogous to the printout of the man-made computers. Your journey into higher consciousness is a matter of your learning how to properly program your remarkable bio-computer. When you really learn to operate your exquisite mechanism, you will be able to fully realize your potential for a happy life.
A wonderful thing about life is that it is naturally good. Life is set up to work-to produce love, fulfillment, and happiness continuously. However, various situations during your first years of life conditioned you in the methods of consciousness, which continually generate unhappiness in your life. Yet every current experience can aid you in your growth toward higher consciousness if you know how to use it. You have been creating the experiences that you have.
(The Living Love System) … will show you exactly what to do to break out of the traps in your mind that are the cause of all the unhappiness that you have experienced in your life! When you apply the Methods (more about them later)…, you will be able to turn your life around. The continuous experience of love, serenity, happiness, joy, effectiveness, perceptiveness, and wisdom that you have had only in bits and pieces can now be available to you all of the time. You will learn how to experience the world as a friendly, loving place that has been designed to give you everything that you need. You will develop a "miraculous" quality in your life. Beautiful things will happen so continuously that you can no longer ascribe it to mere "coincidence." You will experience that you can create more love, happiness, and serenity than you need for living a thoroughly fulfilled and enjoyable life.
While this was certainly not your intention, you will become aware of how you have been turning yourself off to the energies of the world around you. Your mind has been programmed to process incoming visual, auditory, and other information in ways that continuously alienate and separate you from people. You will realize that you have been unconscious of what you have been doing to yourself. It is as though you have been born with eyes that see only with great distortion-but which give the illusion of seeing sharply and clearly. This Handbook will help you become aware that the only real problem in your life involve show consciously you use your mind-and it gives you clear instructions for carrying out the inner work necessary to become an energetic, perceptive, loving being. Living Love is a positive cure for all of the suffering and unhappiness in your life and that of all humanity. The Living Love Way offers mankind one of the most powerful tools for emerging victorious in the race between higher consciousness and the suffering of atomic annihilation, ecological degradation, prejudice, and the thousand fold ways we separate ourselves from each other.
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Ken Keyes Jr.
The Law of Higher Consciousness
Your growth into higher consciousness should begin by fully understanding the importance of becoming one with the Law of Higher Consciousness:
Love everyone unconditionally- including yourself.
This law can enable you to find the hidden splendor within yourself and others. Unfortunately, we have never been taught how to love unconditionally. Almost all of our loving has been motivated by emotional desires programmed into us at an early age Most of our love experiences have taught us we must earn or serve love before we can have it-and that others must deserve our love. This is conditional love-it is like a barter or a business transaction. It is no wonder that our well-meaning but unskilled at- tempts to love usually end up in separation and alienation. We have been taught to place conditions on our love: "If you really loved me you would.. "-and then we use one of our addictions to finish the sentence. This is an exchange-it is not unconditional love.
What is unconditional love? It is not, "I can love you if you do what my emotional programming-my addiction-says I want you to do." It is just love. just, "I love you because you are there. I love you because you are part of the nowness of my life. I love you because although our bodies and minds may be on different trips, on the consciousness level all of us are alike in our humanness. We are one."
Real love is simply accepting another person. Completely and unconditionally! We experience things from his or her psychic space. It is like seeing the world through his or her eyes. Whatever he or she is going through-whatever he or she is feeling-we have been there, too-at some time in our lives.
When we love, we view others as unfolding beings in their journey toward higher consciousness. We realize that no matter how intensely we strive for worldly attainments, we all seek love and oneness on the consciousness level. We are all on the journey to higher consciousness. Some of us are hearing the messages life offers us and are working consciously to eliminate our addictions. Others are not progressing rapidly because they do not yet know how to consciously work on themselves.
We must also learn to love ourselves - right here and now. We need to feel that no matter how horrible we have judged our past actions, each day our life begins anew. We have at all times been lovable. A child may be naughty, but he is always lovable. And so we are all children as long as we are programmed with our lower consciousness addictions. So we must accept the melodramas we get involved in as we live out our current crop of addictions. This, too, is a part of life and growth.
Every part of the system of Living Love is designed to help you learn to love everyone unconditionally-including yourself. You only need to plant the Living Love seeds in your consciousness and they will automatically sprout. Do not berate yourself because you are not enlightened by the third Tuesday of next month. The more you learn to love and accept yourself, the more you will realize that you are doing exactly what you need to do to provide yourself with experiences to grow into higher consciousness.
How can you love others if you do not love yourself? The love you have for yourself and the love you have for "another" are building blocks joining together within you to create the beautiful edifice of real love.
Learning to love unconditionally means getting free of interference from our programmed addictions-those emotion-backed demanding instructions to our bio-computer. This enables us to perceive clearly what is here and now - to evaluate wisely-and to act effectively to do whatever we want to do about it. The key to this is the instant emotional acceptance of the here and now - the emotional acceptance of the previously unacceptable.
When our emotions are triggered, we cannot perceive clearly our actual life situation. Our biocomputer then sends a flow of information to our consciousness in which separation and alienation are emphasized. We create a horribly warped evaluation of the here and now based on our addictive programming. When this happens, we magnify differences and suppress similarities between ourselves and "others." And this destroys our ability to love unconditionally.
We all know that just having the desire to love is not enough. As far back as we can remember we have been aware of the importance of love in our lives. We know that lack of love is responsible for most of the unhappiness in the world - for difficulties in getting along with other people, for pollution, prejudice, wars, and other individual and group crimes against humanity. But what can we do about it?
The Law of Higher Consciousness suggests a practical guide for the Aquarian Age:
You add suffering to the world just as much when you take offense as when you give offense.
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness can show you step by step why you find it so difficult to love and exactly what to do about it. The Twelve Pathways given in a later chapter tell you what you need to do to live in the Oneness Ocean of Love all of the time. Back to top
Your Demands Create Your Unhappiness
We've all known fear, frustration, anger, and many other uncomfortable feelings There have been countless times in our lives when we felt unhappy or were even suffering. We 've always thought we knew what was causing it: bad luck, other people not understanding us, other people treating us meanly, blaming ourselves for our own mistakes - the list of who or what to blame is endless. And we've often thought our unhappiness was caused by things largely out of our own control. The world was "doing it" to us.
Could it be that this is an illusion based on a common error in perception? Could it be that our happiness does not depend on "outside" people and events? Could it be that we really don't realize what caused us to create uncomfortable feelings, separateness, and unhappiness? Could it be that we create our experience through wide" spread but erroneous habits of mind?
YES! All of us are the authors of our own experience of life. This chapter will show how we can, regardless of the circumstances under which we live, gradually increase our enjoyment of life. We can be the masters of our experience even though we cannot always control the people in the world around us to fit our models and desires! The world hasn't been doing it to us, we've been doing it to ourselves through unskillful mental habits. But we're not to blame either! As we begin to use the basic principle of this chapter in our everyday lives, we start to experience ourselves and the world in an entirely different way that allows us to really enjoy our lives more.
OUR DEMANDING MINDS Henry David Thoreau observed that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. And some of us are not so quiet! Why is continuous happiness usually considered to be an unrealistic or unattainable state? Why are we so often triggering separating emotions of fear, frustration, anger, initiation, worry, resentment, panic, hate, impatience, anxiety, exasperation, fury, and on and on into the night? What's messing up our lives??? IT'S OUR DEMANDS! It's just demands that make our minds trigger the above emotions and keep us upset so much of the time. "I can't stand that win- dow rattling." t1The nasty bugs are eating my flowers." "I'm pissed off because Lisa forgot our date." "John makes me angry when he asks why dinner isn't ready." "Those kids! They've messed up the living room again." "I'm getting too fat." "I'll never learn to keep my bank book straight." "Brad just isn't reason- able about wanting sex so much" "Jim spends money as if it grows on trees."
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The First Wisdom Principle
Everyone is entitled to enjoy love, inner peace, and a sense of unity. Unconditional love exists in every one of us, but often our programming interrupts our experience of that love. We can compare love with the ever-present sun. The sun is always shining. At times the clouds block some of the sun's rays and we automatically say, "The sun isn't shining today," although we know it's there, shining behind the clouds. Even at midnight the sun is shining. The "world has turned around" so it appears that there is no sun! Yet, when we consider, we realize that the sun is still shining. In much the same way, heart-to-heart love is always there in us, waiting to be felt and expressed. Often our programming "clouds" our experience of loving. And at times we literally turn our emotional world around to the point where we are certain we have lost love. But it is always there. The science of Happiness offers us ways to clear away the clouds, and experience- appreciation and love for ourselves and others. The first empowering Wisdom Principle it gives us is:
MY ADDICTIVE DEMANDS TRIGGER MY SEPARATINGEMOTIONS THAT CREATE MY UNHAPPINESS.
PREFERENCES NEVER DO.
An addiction (or an addictive demand) is a desire, expectation, or model that makes you feel upset or unhappy if it is not satisfied We call it an "addiction" because you tell yourself you must have it to be happy. You might have a demand on yourself or on another person, or on a situation. For example, "I demand that I not lose my keys," or "I demand that you be on time," or "I demand that Trevor say he agrees with me." Our minds keep running demands throughout the day-and night. The clue to knowing when you have an addictive demand is whether you feel separating emotions, tension in your body, or churning in your mind about whatever it is you want. A demand is addictive when you think you must have it to be happy or if you feel upset in any degree. Take a minute now to notice demands your mind ran today.... Only addictive demands can interfere with our experience of love. This means that all our unhappiness and suffering is caused by our demanding programming-not by life events. When there is no addictive demand, there is no suffering. When we prefer things to be a certain way (instead of demand), we do not create unhappiness, fear, frustration, anger, or hate-about ourselves or any- one else. With preferential programming we can always feel the love within us. In the past, when we were aware of worry, sadness, irritation, or other separating emotions, we felt there was something in our world (a life event) that was not happening as we thought it should. That event wasn't meeting our "model" of how it should be. So, we erroneously blamed the life condition for our unhappiness: Back to top
Erroneous Thinking is:
The Life Event, the "What Is" Makes Me Feel -- Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
NOTE: When we use the term "life event" or "what is" we are referring to "objective reality" - the way things are unfolding in our changing world contrasted with the separate-self distortions in thinking and perception created in our minds. A life event (or "what is") can take place either inside us or in the world outside our skin - and is then reported to us by our various senses.
Sometimes, no matter what we do, how we act, or what we say, we can't get something to change. And there we are: the life condition won't change, and we think all we can do is to experience annoyance, resentment, anxiety, jealousy, loneliness, or some such separating emotion. This is the way we have all spent much of our live-feeling unhappy when the outside event wasn't the way we thought it should be, and blaming ourselves or others for things not being different. We have usually responded to our dissatisfaction by attempting to change the life event. We have put time and energy into forceing changes on ourselves and other people. We've harmed people in trying mightily to force changes. Sometimes we've gotten what we wanted, depending on how good we were at changing the world. But let's face it: have we ever changed people and things enough for us to really enjoy our lives-to then peacefully live our lives? Let's clear up a possible misconception. There's nothing wrong with trying to change things to meet our models. We do it all" the time. We have learned lots of ways to increase our skill in getting what we want. But what do we do when a life situation doesn't change? Feel bad? The Science of Happiness shows us what to do when our lives don't give us the changes we want-which is usually!
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Our Programming Creates Our Experience
The exciting opportunity the Science of Happiness offers us is the realization that we can choose to experience satisfying feelings instead of automatically triggering separating emotions. Rather than blame anyone for anything, we are learning that we can take responsibility for what we feel-and, therefore, choose the feelings we want to experience inside us-even if the outside event doesn't change.
All that's needed to change a separating emotion is to change the programming that triggers the emotion. This concept is empowering in the sense that it shows us that we have the potential to be the masters of our own emotional experience-any time, under any circumstance. We can't always change the life event, but with skill we can empower ourselves to change the programming that generates our experience of it!
The area we want to work with is our thoughts and our programming, not our action-not even our emotions. We are careful to avoid repressing or suppressing our emotions. Our emotions will change as we change our programming. that causes them.
Our brain has often been called a bio-computer. Just as a computer is guided by its programming, we are run by ours. We are creating our present emotions and actions from the programming we have put into our bio-computer over the years-from childhood on up!
When we acquired our programming, we may have chosen it because it worked for us at the time. However, over the years we've changed, and our situations have changed. We've developed new expectations and skills. Although outside events have changed, our programming hasn't necessarily changed with them. So today at 20,40, or 60 years of age, we are sometimes operating from the programming we put in when we were 2,4, or 6 years old. And this programming is often no longer workable to yield insight and happiness in many of our current life situations. Back to top
Up-leveling Addictions to Preferences
In the Science of Happiness, a preference is a desire that is not triggering any separating feelings or tensions in your mind or body whether or not your desire is satisfied. With a preference you can dislike a situation. You can put energy into making changes with a preferential attitude, but you do not feel emotionally attached to the results-and you remain loving of yourself and others. For example, consider yourself making the statement, "I want you to be on time"
The key to knowing whether a preference is operating in your mind is to notice whether you feel internally relaxed and free from any separating emotion-even when the person is not on time. Addictive demands and preferences are both wants or desires-but are vastly different in hew they affect your enjoyment. Addictions can generate a sense of personal power when they occasionally are satisfied; preferences are the key to continuously powerful living!
Sometimes our ego - minds hold on to our addictive demands because we have the illusion that we need them. If I emotionally accept some-one's opposing view, won't I be too wishy-washy? Won't people take advantage of me if I do not have addictions that trigger anger in at least some situations? Won't I become a doormat? If everything is a preference, won't I lose the ability to deal effectively with many situations? Won't life be boring? Won't I stop caring and trying to improve things? Won't I be trapped helplessly in hopeless situations if I up-level all my addictive demands to preferences?
All of these questions are based on a misunderstanding of what we mean by a preference:
WITH A PREFERENCE
1. You can still want what you want.
2. You can still try to make changes.
3. You can still think you're "right"
4. You can more skillfully achieve your positive intention.
5. You just don't have to feel upset or unhappy!
When we operate from addictive programming, we find that when we think something happens (an "apparent life event") which is not what we want, we make ourselves unhappy. We often do this without understanding that it's our programming (what we are telling ourselves about this event) that causes our unhappiness. We tell ourselves if it only were different, then we could be happy. What we don't realize is that it's the addictive demand programming we have about the way the event "has" to be that is making us upset-not the outside event. Back to top
How Our Minds Actually Work
Notice the difference a preference makes even when the life event is unchanged:
How Our Minds Actually Work
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with addictive programming ----
The EMOTIONAL RESPONSE will be = Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
OR
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with Preferential programming
Then the EMOTIONAL RESPONSE = INSIGHT, LOVE, JOY, SERENITY, HAPPINESS. etc.
BECOMING A CREATIVE CAUSE
We can adjust our perceptions about situations in which we feel unhappy. Increasing our awareness of two things helps us become "creative causes" instead of "victims" of life:
1. WE CREATE OUR EXPERIENCE: The addictive demands that we have programmed into our heads are the immediate, practical cause of our unhappiness when the world isn't the way we want it to be.
In the example above of how our minds work, notice that our addictive programming immediately precedes our internal experience. Handling our addictive demands is useful because it offers us a way to change our internal experience to a more desirable one. For example, if a person criticizes us, this life event in itself cannot make us hurt or angry. It can only trigger an addictive programming we may have that people not criticize us. if we do not have this addictive programming, there is no way that criticism can reach into our minds and stimulate the emotional centers (limbic area) to create our experience of hurt or anger. It is instead just noticed as another event in our lives. And we then have many options in our response instead of the narrow range of options offered by our minds when we are generating fear, anger, frustration, resentment, etc. Up-leveling our addictive demands for preferences enables us to be creative causes instead of victims in our various life circumstances.
2. WE ARE NOT OUR PROGRAMMING: In our essence, we are not our programming and we are not the thoughts and feelings generated by our preferential or addictive programming. For example, no matter how beautiful or unpleasant the music on our stereo seems to us, the music is not the stereo set. The music is generated by the cassette or program that we put into the stereo. if we don't like the music, we don't criticize our stereo set-we just change the program.
If we don't like the experience we create (such as fear, frustration, or anger) in a given situation in our lives, we don't need to criticize ourselves because it means nothing about us. We can just change the program inside us! We are not victims; we are not unworthy; we are not helpless and life is not hopeless. We are not our programming any more than the stereo set is the music that is coming from it.
Just as a good stereo deserves a good cassette, we deserve every beautiful gift that life has to offer us. We have such potential for energy, insight, love, joy, and inner peace m our lives, and it's only our programming that is blocking our attaining them. So our goal becomes very dear: Let's begin to identify the programs in our minds that produce the "discordant music" of separateness and negative emotions. And let's get rid of them!
Let's increase our skill in choosing programming that creates love, enjoyment, cooperation, and unity in our lives at every moment. Our programming, not us, is responsible for our separating emotions; and as adults we can take responsibility for our programming! if we do not deal with our self-defeating tapes, we will miss our opportunities to creatively mold them in ways that yield happier lives. Unless we learn to change our programming, we'll be robots. We'll fight valiantly like Don Quixote against the arms of the windmills constantly hurting himself under the illusion that he's defending his world against the dragons.
The 2-4-4 system shows us how to retrain our minds to change our addictive programming if we choose. It also offers us a new way to deal with our separating emotions: we no longer have to suppress them, and we no longer have to express them like robots! We can eliminate the addictive demands that trigger them. As we retrain our minds to select new programming and give new operating- instructions to our biocomputer, we empower ourselves to live more loving, peaceful, and effective lives.* Back to top
Your growth into higher consciousness should begin by fully understanding the importance of becoming one with the Law of Higher Consciousness:
Love everyone unconditionally- including yourself.
This law can enable you to find the hidden splendor within yourself and others. Unfortunately, we have never been taught how to love unconditionally. Almost all of our loving has been motivated by emotional desires programmed into us at an early age Most of our love experiences have taught us we must earn or serve love before we can have it-and that others must deserve our love. This is conditional love-it is like a barter or a business transaction. It is no wonder that our well-meaning but unskilled at- tempts to love usually end up in separation and alienation. We have been taught to place conditions on our love: "If you really loved me you would.. "-and then we use one of our addictions to finish the sentence. This is an exchange-it is not unconditional love.
What is unconditional love? It is not, "I can love you if you do what my emotional programming-my addiction-says I want you to do." It is just love. just, "I love you because you are there. I love you because you are part of the nowness of my life. I love you because although our bodies and minds may be on different trips, on the consciousness level all of us are alike in our humanness. We are one."
Real love is simply accepting another person. Completely and unconditionally! We experience things from his or her psychic space. It is like seeing the world through his or her eyes. Whatever he or she is going through-whatever he or she is feeling-we have been there, too-at some time in our lives.
When we love, we view others as unfolding beings in their journey toward higher consciousness. We realize that no matter how intensely we strive for worldly attainments, we all seek love and oneness on the consciousness level. We are all on the journey to higher consciousness. Some of us are hearing the messages life offers us and are working consciously to eliminate our addictions. Others are not progressing rapidly because they do not yet know how to consciously work on themselves.
We must also learn to love ourselves - right here and now. We need to feel that no matter how horrible we have judged our past actions, each day our life begins anew. We have at all times been lovable. A child may be naughty, but he is always lovable. And so we are all children as long as we are programmed with our lower consciousness addictions. So we must accept the melodramas we get involved in as we live out our current crop of addictions. This, too, is a part of life and growth.
Every part of the system of Living Love is designed to help you learn to love everyone unconditionally-including yourself. You only need to plant the Living Love seeds in your consciousness and they will automatically sprout. Do not berate yourself because you are not enlightened by the third Tuesday of next month. The more you learn to love and accept yourself, the more you will realize that you are doing exactly what you need to do to provide yourself with experiences to grow into higher consciousness.
How can you love others if you do not love yourself? The love you have for yourself and the love you have for "another" are building blocks joining together within you to create the beautiful edifice of real love.
Learning to love unconditionally means getting free of interference from our programmed addictions-those emotion-backed demanding instructions to our bio-computer. This enables us to perceive clearly what is here and now - to evaluate wisely-and to act effectively to do whatever we want to do about it. The key to this is the instant emotional acceptance of the here and now - the emotional acceptance of the previously unacceptable.
When our emotions are triggered, we cannot perceive clearly our actual life situation. Our biocomputer then sends a flow of information to our consciousness in which separation and alienation are emphasized. We create a horribly warped evaluation of the here and now based on our addictive programming. When this happens, we magnify differences and suppress similarities between ourselves and "others." And this destroys our ability to love unconditionally.
We all know that just having the desire to love is not enough. As far back as we can remember we have been aware of the importance of love in our lives. We know that lack of love is responsible for most of the unhappiness in the world - for difficulties in getting along with other people, for pollution, prejudice, wars, and other individual and group crimes against humanity. But what can we do about it?
The Law of Higher Consciousness suggests a practical guide for the Aquarian Age:
You add suffering to the world just as much when you take offense as when you give offense.
The Living Love Way to Higher Consciousness can show you step by step why you find it so difficult to love and exactly what to do about it. The Twelve Pathways given in a later chapter tell you what you need to do to live in the Oneness Ocean of Love all of the time. Back to top
Your Demands Create Your Unhappiness
We've all known fear, frustration, anger, and many other uncomfortable feelings There have been countless times in our lives when we felt unhappy or were even suffering. We 've always thought we knew what was causing it: bad luck, other people not understanding us, other people treating us meanly, blaming ourselves for our own mistakes - the list of who or what to blame is endless. And we've often thought our unhappiness was caused by things largely out of our own control. The world was "doing it" to us.
Could it be that this is an illusion based on a common error in perception? Could it be that our happiness does not depend on "outside" people and events? Could it be that we really don't realize what caused us to create uncomfortable feelings, separateness, and unhappiness? Could it be that we create our experience through wide" spread but erroneous habits of mind?
YES! All of us are the authors of our own experience of life. This chapter will show how we can, regardless of the circumstances under which we live, gradually increase our enjoyment of life. We can be the masters of our experience even though we cannot always control the people in the world around us to fit our models and desires! The world hasn't been doing it to us, we've been doing it to ourselves through unskillful mental habits. But we're not to blame either! As we begin to use the basic principle of this chapter in our everyday lives, we start to experience ourselves and the world in an entirely different way that allows us to really enjoy our lives more.
OUR DEMANDING MINDS Henry David Thoreau observed that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. And some of us are not so quiet! Why is continuous happiness usually considered to be an unrealistic or unattainable state? Why are we so often triggering separating emotions of fear, frustration, anger, initiation, worry, resentment, panic, hate, impatience, anxiety, exasperation, fury, and on and on into the night? What's messing up our lives??? IT'S OUR DEMANDS! It's just demands that make our minds trigger the above emotions and keep us upset so much of the time. "I can't stand that win- dow rattling." t1The nasty bugs are eating my flowers." "I'm pissed off because Lisa forgot our date." "John makes me angry when he asks why dinner isn't ready." "Those kids! They've messed up the living room again." "I'm getting too fat." "I'll never learn to keep my bank book straight." "Brad just isn't reason- able about wanting sex so much" "Jim spends money as if it grows on trees."
Back to top We've all known fear, frustration, anger, and many other uncomfortable feelings There have been countless times in our lives when we felt unhappy or were even suffering. We 've always thought we knew what was causing it: bad luck, other people not understanding us, other people treating us meanly, blaming ourselves for our own mistakes - the list of who or what to blame is endless. And we've often thought our unhappiness was caused by things largely out of our own control. The world was "doing it" to us.
Could it be that this is an illusion based on a common error in perception? Could it be that our happiness does not depend on "outside" people and events? Could it be that we really don't realize what caused us to create uncomfortable feelings, separateness, and unhappiness? Could it be that we create our experience through wide" spread but erroneous habits of mind?
YES! All of us are the authors of our own experience of life. This chapter will show how we can, regardless of the circumstances under which we live, gradually increase our enjoyment of life. We can be the masters of our experience even though we cannot always control the people in the world around us to fit our models and desires! The world hasn't been doing it to us, we've been doing it to ourselves through unskillful mental habits. But we're not to blame either! As we begin to use the basic principle of this chapter in our everyday lives, we start to experience ourselves and the world in an entirely different way that allows us to really enjoy our lives more.
OUR DEMANDING MINDS Henry David Thoreau observed that "the mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation. And some of us are not so quiet! Why is continuous happiness usually considered to be an unrealistic or unattainable state? Why are we so often triggering separating emotions of fear, frustration, anger, initiation, worry, resentment, panic, hate, impatience, anxiety, exasperation, fury, and on and on into the night? What's messing up our lives??? IT'S OUR DEMANDS! It's just demands that make our minds trigger the above emotions and keep us upset so much of the time. "I can't stand that win- dow rattling." t1The nasty bugs are eating my flowers." "I'm pissed off because Lisa forgot our date." "John makes me angry when he asks why dinner isn't ready." "Those kids! They've messed up the living room again." "I'm getting too fat." "I'll never learn to keep my bank book straight." "Brad just isn't reason- able about wanting sex so much" "Jim spends money as if it grows on trees."
The First Wisdom Principle
Everyone is entitled to enjoy love, inner peace, and a sense of unity. Unconditional love exists in every one of us, but often our programming interrupts our experience of that love. We can compare love with the ever-present sun. The sun is always shining. At times the clouds block some of the sun's rays and we automatically say, "The sun isn't shining today," although we know it's there, shining behind the clouds. Even at midnight the sun is shining. The "world has turned around" so it appears that there is no sun! Yet, when we consider, we realize that the sun is still shining. In much the same way, heart-to-heart love is always there in us, waiting to be felt and expressed. Often our programming "clouds" our experience of loving. And at times we literally turn our emotional world around to the point where we are certain we have lost love. But it is always there. The science of Happiness offers us ways to clear away the clouds, and experience- appreciation and love for ourselves and others. The first empowering Wisdom Principle it gives us is:
MY ADDICTIVE DEMANDS TRIGGER MY SEPARATINGEMOTIONS THAT CREATE MY UNHAPPINESS.
PREFERENCES NEVER DO.
An addiction (or an addictive demand) is a desire, expectation, or model that makes you feel upset or unhappy if it is not satisfied We call it an "addiction" because you tell yourself you must have it to be happy. You might have a demand on yourself or on another person, or on a situation. For example, "I demand that I not lose my keys," or "I demand that you be on time," or "I demand that Trevor say he agrees with me." Our minds keep running demands throughout the day-and night. The clue to knowing when you have an addictive demand is whether you feel separating emotions, tension in your body, or churning in your mind about whatever it is you want. A demand is addictive when you think you must have it to be happy or if you feel upset in any degree. Take a minute now to notice demands your mind ran today.... Only addictive demands can interfere with our experience of love. This means that all our unhappiness and suffering is caused by our demanding programming-not by life events. When there is no addictive demand, there is no suffering. When we prefer things to be a certain way (instead of demand), we do not create unhappiness, fear, frustration, anger, or hate-about ourselves or any- one else. With preferential programming we can always feel the love within us. In the past, when we were aware of worry, sadness, irritation, or other separating emotions, we felt there was something in our world (a life event) that was not happening as we thought it should. That event wasn't meeting our "model" of how it should be. So, we erroneously blamed the life condition for our unhappiness: Back to top
Everyone is entitled to enjoy love, inner peace, and a sense of unity. Unconditional love exists in every one of us, but often our programming interrupts our experience of that love. We can compare love with the ever-present sun. The sun is always shining. At times the clouds block some of the sun's rays and we automatically say, "The sun isn't shining today," although we know it's there, shining behind the clouds. Even at midnight the sun is shining. The "world has turned around" so it appears that there is no sun! Yet, when we consider, we realize that the sun is still shining. In much the same way, heart-to-heart love is always there in us, waiting to be felt and expressed. Often our programming "clouds" our experience of loving. And at times we literally turn our emotional world around to the point where we are certain we have lost love. But it is always there. The science of Happiness offers us ways to clear away the clouds, and experience- appreciation and love for ourselves and others. The first empowering Wisdom Principle it gives us is:
MY ADDICTIVE DEMANDS TRIGGER MY SEPARATINGEMOTIONS THAT CREATE MY UNHAPPINESS.
PREFERENCES NEVER DO.
An addiction (or an addictive demand) is a desire, expectation, or model that makes you feel upset or unhappy if it is not satisfied We call it an "addiction" because you tell yourself you must have it to be happy. You might have a demand on yourself or on another person, or on a situation. For example, "I demand that I not lose my keys," or "I demand that you be on time," or "I demand that Trevor say he agrees with me." Our minds keep running demands throughout the day-and night. The clue to knowing when you have an addictive demand is whether you feel separating emotions, tension in your body, or churning in your mind about whatever it is you want. A demand is addictive when you think you must have it to be happy or if you feel upset in any degree. Take a minute now to notice demands your mind ran today.... Only addictive demands can interfere with our experience of love. This means that all our unhappiness and suffering is caused by our demanding programming-not by life events. When there is no addictive demand, there is no suffering. When we prefer things to be a certain way (instead of demand), we do not create unhappiness, fear, frustration, anger, or hate-about ourselves or any- one else. With preferential programming we can always feel the love within us. In the past, when we were aware of worry, sadness, irritation, or other separating emotions, we felt there was something in our world (a life event) that was not happening as we thought it should. That event wasn't meeting our "model" of how it should be. So, we erroneously blamed the life condition for our unhappiness: Back to top
Erroneous Thinking is:
The Life Event, the "What Is" Makes Me Feel -- Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
NOTE: When we use the term "life event" or "what is" we are referring to "objective reality" - the way things are unfolding in our changing world contrasted with the separate-self distortions in thinking and perception created in our minds. A life event (or "what is") can take place either inside us or in the world outside our skin - and is then reported to us by our various senses.
Sometimes, no matter what we do, how we act, or what we say, we can't get something to change. And there we are: the life condition won't change, and we think all we can do is to experience annoyance, resentment, anxiety, jealousy, loneliness, or some such separating emotion. This is the way we have all spent much of our live-feeling unhappy when the outside event wasn't the way we thought it should be, and blaming ourselves or others for things not being different. We have usually responded to our dissatisfaction by attempting to change the life event. We have put time and energy into forceing changes on ourselves and other people. We've harmed people in trying mightily to force changes. Sometimes we've gotten what we wanted, depending on how good we were at changing the world. But let's face it: have we ever changed people and things enough for us to really enjoy our lives-to then peacefully live our lives? Let's clear up a possible misconception. There's nothing wrong with trying to change things to meet our models. We do it all" the time. We have learned lots of ways to increase our skill in getting what we want. But what do we do when a life situation doesn't change? Feel bad? The Science of Happiness shows us what to do when our lives don't give us the changes we want-which is usually!
Back to top The Life Event, the "What Is" Makes Me Feel -- Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
NOTE: When we use the term "life event" or "what is" we are referring to "objective reality" - the way things are unfolding in our changing world contrasted with the separate-self distortions in thinking and perception created in our minds. A life event (or "what is") can take place either inside us or in the world outside our skin - and is then reported to us by our various senses.
Sometimes, no matter what we do, how we act, or what we say, we can't get something to change. And there we are: the life condition won't change, and we think all we can do is to experience annoyance, resentment, anxiety, jealousy, loneliness, or some such separating emotion. This is the way we have all spent much of our live-feeling unhappy when the outside event wasn't the way we thought it should be, and blaming ourselves or others for things not being different. We have usually responded to our dissatisfaction by attempting to change the life event. We have put time and energy into forceing changes on ourselves and other people. We've harmed people in trying mightily to force changes. Sometimes we've gotten what we wanted, depending on how good we were at changing the world. But let's face it: have we ever changed people and things enough for us to really enjoy our lives-to then peacefully live our lives? Let's clear up a possible misconception. There's nothing wrong with trying to change things to meet our models. We do it all" the time. We have learned lots of ways to increase our skill in getting what we want. But what do we do when a life situation doesn't change? Feel bad? The Science of Happiness shows us what to do when our lives don't give us the changes we want-which is usually!
Our Programming Creates Our Experience
The exciting opportunity the Science of Happiness offers us is the realization that we can choose to experience satisfying feelings instead of automatically triggering separating emotions. Rather than blame anyone for anything, we are learning that we can take responsibility for what we feel-and, therefore, choose the feelings we want to experience inside us-even if the outside event doesn't change.
All that's needed to change a separating emotion is to change the programming that triggers the emotion. This concept is empowering in the sense that it shows us that we have the potential to be the masters of our own emotional experience-any time, under any circumstance. We can't always change the life event, but with skill we can empower ourselves to change the programming that generates our experience of it!
The area we want to work with is our thoughts and our programming, not our action-not even our emotions. We are careful to avoid repressing or suppressing our emotions. Our emotions will change as we change our programming. that causes them.
Our brain has often been called a bio-computer. Just as a computer is guided by its programming, we are run by ours. We are creating our present emotions and actions from the programming we have put into our bio-computer over the years-from childhood on up!
When we acquired our programming, we may have chosen it because it worked for us at the time. However, over the years we've changed, and our situations have changed. We've developed new expectations and skills. Although outside events have changed, our programming hasn't necessarily changed with them. So today at 20,40, or 60 years of age, we are sometimes operating from the programming we put in when we were 2,4, or 6 years old. And this programming is often no longer workable to yield insight and happiness in many of our current life situations. Back to top
The exciting opportunity the Science of Happiness offers us is the realization that we can choose to experience satisfying feelings instead of automatically triggering separating emotions. Rather than blame anyone for anything, we are learning that we can take responsibility for what we feel-and, therefore, choose the feelings we want to experience inside us-even if the outside event doesn't change.
All that's needed to change a separating emotion is to change the programming that triggers the emotion. This concept is empowering in the sense that it shows us that we have the potential to be the masters of our own emotional experience-any time, under any circumstance. We can't always change the life event, but with skill we can empower ourselves to change the programming that generates our experience of it!
The area we want to work with is our thoughts and our programming, not our action-not even our emotions. We are careful to avoid repressing or suppressing our emotions. Our emotions will change as we change our programming. that causes them.
Our brain has often been called a bio-computer. Just as a computer is guided by its programming, we are run by ours. We are creating our present emotions and actions from the programming we have put into our bio-computer over the years-from childhood on up!
When we acquired our programming, we may have chosen it because it worked for us at the time. However, over the years we've changed, and our situations have changed. We've developed new expectations and skills. Although outside events have changed, our programming hasn't necessarily changed with them. So today at 20,40, or 60 years of age, we are sometimes operating from the programming we put in when we were 2,4, or 6 years old. And this programming is often no longer workable to yield insight and happiness in many of our current life situations. Back to top
Up-leveling Addictions to Preferences
In the Science of Happiness, a preference is a desire that is not triggering any separating feelings or tensions in your mind or body whether or not your desire is satisfied. With a preference you can dislike a situation. You can put energy into making changes with a preferential attitude, but you do not feel emotionally attached to the results-and you remain loving of yourself and others. For example, consider yourself making the statement, "I want you to be on time"
The key to knowing whether a preference is operating in your mind is to notice whether you feel internally relaxed and free from any separating emotion-even when the person is not on time. Addictive demands and preferences are both wants or desires-but are vastly different in hew they affect your enjoyment. Addictions can generate a sense of personal power when they occasionally are satisfied; preferences are the key to continuously powerful living!
Sometimes our ego - minds hold on to our addictive demands because we have the illusion that we need them. If I emotionally accept some-one's opposing view, won't I be too wishy-washy? Won't people take advantage of me if I do not have addictions that trigger anger in at least some situations? Won't I become a doormat? If everything is a preference, won't I lose the ability to deal effectively with many situations? Won't life be boring? Won't I stop caring and trying to improve things? Won't I be trapped helplessly in hopeless situations if I up-level all my addictive demands to preferences?
All of these questions are based on a misunderstanding of what we mean by a preference:
WITH A PREFERENCE
1. You can still want what you want.
2. You can still try to make changes.
3. You can still think you're "right"
4. You can more skillfully achieve your positive intention.
5. You just don't have to feel upset or unhappy!
When we operate from addictive programming, we find that when we think something happens (an "apparent life event") which is not what we want, we make ourselves unhappy. We often do this without understanding that it's our programming (what we are telling ourselves about this event) that causes our unhappiness. We tell ourselves if it only were different, then we could be happy. What we don't realize is that it's the addictive demand programming we have about the way the event "has" to be that is making us upset-not the outside event. Back to top
In the Science of Happiness, a preference is a desire that is not triggering any separating feelings or tensions in your mind or body whether or not your desire is satisfied. With a preference you can dislike a situation. You can put energy into making changes with a preferential attitude, but you do not feel emotionally attached to the results-and you remain loving of yourself and others. For example, consider yourself making the statement, "I want you to be on time"
The key to knowing whether a preference is operating in your mind is to notice whether you feel internally relaxed and free from any separating emotion-even when the person is not on time. Addictive demands and preferences are both wants or desires-but are vastly different in hew they affect your enjoyment. Addictions can generate a sense of personal power when they occasionally are satisfied; preferences are the key to continuously powerful living!
Sometimes our ego - minds hold on to our addictive demands because we have the illusion that we need them. If I emotionally accept some-one's opposing view, won't I be too wishy-washy? Won't people take advantage of me if I do not have addictions that trigger anger in at least some situations? Won't I become a doormat? If everything is a preference, won't I lose the ability to deal effectively with many situations? Won't life be boring? Won't I stop caring and trying to improve things? Won't I be trapped helplessly in hopeless situations if I up-level all my addictive demands to preferences?
All of these questions are based on a misunderstanding of what we mean by a preference:
WITH A PREFERENCE
1. You can still want what you want.
2. You can still try to make changes.
3. You can still think you're "right"
4. You can more skillfully achieve your positive intention.
5. You just don't have to feel upset or unhappy!
When we operate from addictive programming, we find that when we think something happens (an "apparent life event") which is not what we want, we make ourselves unhappy. We often do this without understanding that it's our programming (what we are telling ourselves about this event) that causes our unhappiness. We tell ourselves if it only were different, then we could be happy. What we don't realize is that it's the addictive demand programming we have about the way the event "has" to be that is making us upset-not the outside event. Back to top
How Our Minds Actually Work
Notice the difference a preference makes even when the life event is unchanged:
How Our Minds Actually Work
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with addictive programming ----
The EMOTIONAL RESPONSE will be = Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
OR
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with Preferential programming
Then the EMOTIONAL RESPONSE = INSIGHT, LOVE, JOY, SERENITY, HAPPINESS. etc.
BECOMING A CREATIVE CAUSE
We can adjust our perceptions about situations in which we feel unhappy. Increasing our awareness of two things helps us become "creative causes" instead of "victims" of life:
1. WE CREATE OUR EXPERIENCE: The addictive demands that we have programmed into our heads are the immediate, practical cause of our unhappiness when the world isn't the way we want it to be.
In the example above of how our minds work, notice that our addictive programming immediately precedes our internal experience. Handling our addictive demands is useful because it offers us a way to change our internal experience to a more desirable one. For example, if a person criticizes us, this life event in itself cannot make us hurt or angry. It can only trigger an addictive programming we may have that people not criticize us. if we do not have this addictive programming, there is no way that criticism can reach into our minds and stimulate the emotional centers (limbic area) to create our experience of hurt or anger. It is instead just noticed as another event in our lives. And we then have many options in our response instead of the narrow range of options offered by our minds when we are generating fear, anger, frustration, resentment, etc. Up-leveling our addictive demands for preferences enables us to be creative causes instead of victims in our various life circumstances.
2. WE ARE NOT OUR PROGRAMMING: In our essence, we are not our programming and we are not the thoughts and feelings generated by our preferential or addictive programming. For example, no matter how beautiful or unpleasant the music on our stereo seems to us, the music is not the stereo set. The music is generated by the cassette or program that we put into the stereo. if we don't like the music, we don't criticize our stereo set-we just change the program.
If we don't like the experience we create (such as fear, frustration, or anger) in a given situation in our lives, we don't need to criticize ourselves because it means nothing about us. We can just change the program inside us! We are not victims; we are not unworthy; we are not helpless and life is not hopeless. We are not our programming any more than the stereo set is the music that is coming from it.
Just as a good stereo deserves a good cassette, we deserve every beautiful gift that life has to offer us. We have such potential for energy, insight, love, joy, and inner peace m our lives, and it's only our programming that is blocking our attaining them. So our goal becomes very dear: Let's begin to identify the programs in our minds that produce the "discordant music" of separateness and negative emotions. And let's get rid of them!
Let's increase our skill in choosing programming that creates love, enjoyment, cooperation, and unity in our lives at every moment. Our programming, not us, is responsible for our separating emotions; and as adults we can take responsibility for our programming! if we do not deal with our self-defeating tapes, we will miss our opportunities to creatively mold them in ways that yield happier lives. Unless we learn to change our programming, we'll be robots. We'll fight valiantly like Don Quixote against the arms of the windmills constantly hurting himself under the illusion that he's defending his world against the dragons.
The 2-4-4 system shows us how to retrain our minds to change our addictive programming if we choose. It also offers us a new way to deal with our separating emotions: we no longer have to suppress them, and we no longer have to express them like robots! We can eliminate the addictive demands that trigger them. As we retrain our minds to select new programming and give new operating- instructions to our biocomputer, we empower ourselves to live more loving, peaceful, and effective lives.* Back to top
How Our Minds Actually Work
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with addictive programming ----
The EMOTIONAL RESPONSE will be = Fear, Frustration, Anger, Hate, Unhappiness, Etc
OR
THE STIMULUS = Life Event, the "What is " --
If INTERVENING VARIABLE = with Preferential programming
Then the EMOTIONAL RESPONSE = INSIGHT, LOVE, JOY, SERENITY, HAPPINESS. etc.
BECOMING A CREATIVE CAUSE
We can adjust our perceptions about situations in which we feel unhappy. Increasing our awareness of two things helps us become "creative causes" instead of "victims" of life:
1. WE CREATE OUR EXPERIENCE: The addictive demands that we have programmed into our heads are the immediate, practical cause of our unhappiness when the world isn't the way we want it to be.
In the example above of how our minds work, notice that our addictive programming immediately precedes our internal experience. Handling our addictive demands is useful because it offers us a way to change our internal experience to a more desirable one. For example, if a person criticizes us, this life event in itself cannot make us hurt or angry. It can only trigger an addictive programming we may have that people not criticize us. if we do not have this addictive programming, there is no way that criticism can reach into our minds and stimulate the emotional centers (limbic area) to create our experience of hurt or anger. It is instead just noticed as another event in our lives. And we then have many options in our response instead of the narrow range of options offered by our minds when we are generating fear, anger, frustration, resentment, etc. Up-leveling our addictive demands for preferences enables us to be creative causes instead of victims in our various life circumstances.
2. WE ARE NOT OUR PROGRAMMING: In our essence, we are not our programming and we are not the thoughts and feelings generated by our preferential or addictive programming. For example, no matter how beautiful or unpleasant the music on our stereo seems to us, the music is not the stereo set. The music is generated by the cassette or program that we put into the stereo. if we don't like the music, we don't criticize our stereo set-we just change the program.
If we don't like the experience we create (such as fear, frustration, or anger) in a given situation in our lives, we don't need to criticize ourselves because it means nothing about us. We can just change the program inside us! We are not victims; we are not unworthy; we are not helpless and life is not hopeless. We are not our programming any more than the stereo set is the music that is coming from it.
Just as a good stereo deserves a good cassette, we deserve every beautiful gift that life has to offer us. We have such potential for energy, insight, love, joy, and inner peace m our lives, and it's only our programming that is blocking our attaining them. So our goal becomes very dear: Let's begin to identify the programs in our minds that produce the "discordant music" of separateness and negative emotions. And let's get rid of them!
Let's increase our skill in choosing programming that creates love, enjoyment, cooperation, and unity in our lives at every moment. Our programming, not us, is responsible for our separating emotions; and as adults we can take responsibility for our programming! if we do not deal with our self-defeating tapes, we will miss our opportunities to creatively mold them in ways that yield happier lives. Unless we learn to change our programming, we'll be robots. We'll fight valiantly like Don Quixote against the arms of the windmills constantly hurting himself under the illusion that he's defending his world against the dragons.
The 2-4-4 system shows us how to retrain our minds to change our addictive programming if we choose. It also offers us a new way to deal with our separating emotions: we no longer have to suppress them, and we no longer have to express them like robots! We can eliminate the addictive demands that trigger them. As we retrain our minds to select new programming and give new operating- instructions to our biocomputer, we empower ourselves to live more loving, peaceful, and effective lives.* Back to top
